CLOUDED MIND

I have heard a lot of people say "I learnt so much from my past relationship." This might be because of the idea that going through one or more relationship helps one grow. Most people even believe that it helps one understand who they are and what they want in a partner. "I learnt so much from my past relationship." is more misleading than we tend to realize. It is possible to grow somewhat due to previous relationships.I understand that if it is not meant to be then it is not meant to be. But regardless, we still need to learn how to fight for what we want until we are completely sure that it is not meant to be. This one attribute helps us understand who we are and what we want.

However, we need to be very careful about moving from one relationship to another with hopes that we learnt from our past relationship. Moving from relationship to relationship CLOUDS our mind. We become so CLOUDED that we can not wait to jump into the another relationship to apply everything that we felt we learnt.

After dating a few people, our mind becomes CLOUDED. Here is what I mean; we believe in the misconception that we grow from past relationships, therefore we go through relationships without putting in work. Because our minds are so clouded we fail at finding out the main reason why the previous relationship ended. Most importantly we are so clouded by the previous relationship that we ignore the fact that every person is different. As a result of the previous relationship we consciously or subconsciously base the events of the current relationship on the old. Therefore, setting the new relationship up to fail indirectly. In many cases while thinking that we learnt from past relationships all we truly do is just relive past relationships. Step out of you clouded mind and understand who you are based on your rules. Remember to put in work to have a lovely relationship and not to find out if who you are dating is the same as everyone. Stop setting up your relationship to fail and damaging your poor mind by jumping from one relationship to another. All relationships go through hell, but real relationships get through it, real relationships are not found by running when the grass is not green enough.